With those two thoughts in mind, I picked up Brené Brown’s DARING GREATLY and looked for clues about how to improve my life. This book, subtitled How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Lie, Love, Parent, and Lead, explains the paradoxical views that we tend to have about vulnerability (e.g., “I want to experience your vulnerability but I don’t want to be vulnerable,” and “Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me.”) and how we need to recognize the key role it plays in living what she calls a “Wholehearted” life.
Brown believes that we live in a culture of scarcity, where the messaging is that you can never have enough or be good enough. Many people feel shame and try to hide it. Some of us think we can opt out of feeling vulnerable by controlling things or keeping too busy to feel. Others wear different forms of armor. Some (perhaps many) numb themselves or become disengaged in other ways.
If you are a teacher or a parent, this book provides some tremendous insights into why children behave the way they do and how we can help. For example, Brown’s explanation of the difference between “fitting in” and “belonging” might make you re-think how you treat students or family members. It might also cause you to reflect on your own upbringing.
In short, there’s something here for everyone.