ME BEFORE YOU, a page-turning, tragic/romantic/comic novel by Jojo Moyes, brought up three things for me. First, how your life can change at any moment, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and sometimes both. Second, it reminded me how we can’t allow these crises to paralyze us (no pun intended). We can’t allow the clock to stop; we have to keep growing. And third, there is this great line in Ann Patchett’s essay collection, THIS IS THE STORY OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE—in fact, in the title track—in which a friend asks this question about her first husband while she is trying to decide whether or not to stay with him: “Does he make you better and do you make him better?”
In the end, maybe things are that simple. And that’s how you know it’s love. Which is why I’m still waiting.
(PS, thanks to Sandy Gingras for this excellent recommendation!)