BETWEEN THE WORLD AND METoni Morrison has called this book “required reading,” and I agree. Carved as a letter to his teenaged son, BETWEEN THE WORLD AND ME explains why Ta-Nehisi Coates feels the way he feels and views the world the way he does. He is consumed by fear, rage, and above all, determination.

Given what he has experienced—from the violence in his West Baltimore neighborhood through the murder of an innocent college friend to the present-day litany of lost black lives—his perspective makes complete sense. I wish the world were different, and I am glad he has lifted his voice to it.

After it is announced that the killers of Michael Brown will not be indicted, Coates’s son says, “I’ve got to go,” and Coates finds him in his room, crying. He writes: “I did not tell you that it would be okay, because I have never believed it would be okay. What I told you is what your grandparents tried to tell me: that this is your country, that this is your world, that this is your body, and you must find some way to live within the all of it.”

This is the struggle, and the struggle continues.

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NO ONE UNDERSTANDS YOU AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT ITI don’t have any children (yet), but I have thousands of former students, which is the next best thing because the chances they will do something that makes me proud are greatly multiplied. To clarify: I take zero credit for their successes. But I am absolutely thrilled for them.

Heidi Grant Halvorson is a perfect example. As a teenager, she was already one of the most intelligent people I’d ever met. It was obvious from the thought-provoking questions she asked and the delight she took in tackling difficult texts that she would eventually become a mover and a shaker.

Today she is a social psychologist who researches, writes, and speaks about the science of motivation, and she has published four bestselling books. Her latest effort (#5), NO ONE UNDERSTANDS YOU AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT, manages to synthesize academic research, pop culture references, and her playful sense of humor all in one remarkably lucid package that asks and answers questions relevant to all of us.

The title absolutely captures both halves of this book. In the beginning, you will wonder if there is any hope for anyone to understand anyone else, ever. And by the end, you will realize: Yes. Yes, there is.

But first you need to read this book.

Bravo, Heidi!

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SICK IN THE HEAD by Judd Apatow

SICK IN THE HEADWith Stephen Colbert preparing for a new gig, Jon Stewart leaving The Daily Show, and Amy Schumer’s first movie coming out this week, we have plenty to muse about when it comes to comedy these days. Judd Apatow’s SICK IN THE HEAD gives us even more.

Apatow directed The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Knocked Up, Funny People, and This Is 40 and had a producing hand in Anchorman and Bridesmaids, among others. The title of his latest film, Trainwreck, gives some indication of how brave (or ironically defiant) he is. His new book reveals the roots of his courage: after his parents divorced when he was a teenager, he became increasingly self-reliant, and he worked up the nerve to pursue his passion for comedy quite literally, by speaking directly to some of the most famous comedians in the business. His pitch was that he was “Judd Apatow from WKWZ 88.5 FM.” That was true. He just left out the fact that it was a high school radio station.

Amazingly, all of the people he interviewed—including the likes of Jerry Seinfeld, Steve Allen, and Martin Short—were incredibly generous with this awkward, earnest teenager who appeared at their door.

Now, 30 years later, having interviewed and re-interviewed several dozen of the most prominent stand-up comics on the planet, he shares the transcripts with us.

If you like comedy—and who doesn’t?—this book is pure gold.

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HOW TO START A FIRERegular readers of this blog know I am a HUGE fan of Lisa Lutz, the author of the Spellman File series and Heads You Lose (with David Hayward). So it should come as no surprise that she has once again wowed me.

What’s different this time is HOW she did it.

HOW TO START A FIRE is ostensibly a novel about three women who meet in college and continue, on and off, to remain friends into adulthood. But it is also a mystery novel, a study in human relations, and yet another brilliant Lutz example of how to write effective snappy dialogue. The story is told forward and backward, bouncing around from the late 1990s up till almost the present day, and the organization is simply brilliant.

It leaves traditional beginning-to-end novels in the dust.

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THE BOYS IN THE BOAT by Daniel James Brown

THE BOYS IN THE BOATI admit, I avoided reading this book for many months even though it received glowing reviews. I had very little interest in crew (well, except for the handsome guys at college whose training regimens and resultant physiques left me gobsmacked), and anyway, we already knew how it ended: they won gold at the 1936 Olympics. Where was the suspense in that?

I’m not going to lie. It took a few pages to get into it. I wasn’t sure why I should keep reading. Then I met Joe Rantz, whose humble, heartbreaking story epitomized the word “underdog.” Abandoned by his father and the whole rest of his family, Joe was forced to survive on his own during the Depression while the rest of his family lived nearby and completely avoided him.

Even though I knew Joe would triumph, I wanted to see how he and the other boys pulled it together. For many pages, it seemed impossible that they would. I had already seen the gold medal in the Prologue, and still, I couldn’t believe it.

This is a great story of courage and guts. Very poignant.

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COLUMBINE by Dave Cullen

COLUMBINEApril 20, 2015: Sixteen years ago today, two teenage boys conducted a violent assault on their high school, murdering twelve students and a teacher and wounding dozens of others before turning their guns on themselves.

Dave Cullen’s COLUMBINE needs no subtitle. With every new school shooting—sadly, the list continues to grow—the name comes up. Many people have seen the images of students fleeing with arms raised in the air to signal their innocence, police cars and ambulances surrounding the building, and afterwards, parents hugging their children as though they would never let them go. Many of us watched CNN or read the newspaper afterwards and thought, How did this happen? Why did they do it?

Rumors and speculation emerged immediately: they had been bullied, they had been members of something called “The Trench Coat Mafia,” they had been gay…. The truth, revealed in this painstakingly-researched comprehensive account, took ten years to reach publication. In 2009, when this book came out (I finally picked it up yesterday and finished reading it this morning: it is that engrossing), it showed that most of the rumors were wrong. Also, some people had known enough to possibly prevent what happened. And some people had covered that up.

Cullen answers many questions, and while the first two are important, he also addresses one that is equally pressing: How do people live through and get over such a terrible tragedy? The balance in this book is that it is not just about the murderers; it is also about the survivors.

My favorite was Patrick Ireland, still limping at graduation when he gave his valedictory address, who said, “When I fell out the window I knew somebody would catch me. That’s what I need to tell you: that I knew the loving world was there all the time.”

COLUMBINE explores unthinkable evil, but it also tells a story about resilience, compassion, and love.

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THE SOCIAL PROFIT HANDBOOKFrom its very title, THE SOCIAL PROFIT HANDBOOK by David Grant challenges the status quo. We should rename “not-for-profit” organizations as “social profit” organizations—because, after all, isn’t that what they are designed to do, benefit society?

Yes. Exactly.

As the former president and CEO of the Geraldine R. Dodge Foundation and now a national consultant who works with people and organizations that have a social or educational mission, Grant is well-positioned to write this book, subtitled “The Essential Guide to Setting Goals, Assessing Outcomes, and Achieving Success for Mission-Driven Organizations.” He has extensive experience in facilitating sessions that help organizations wrestle with strategic-planning and other burning topics, and this book will absolutely be a handy tool for many people I know.

In fewer than 200 pages but with ample concrete examples, he explains how “backwards-design” thinking (ala Wiggins and McTighe*) and the process of developing rubrics can clarify what we value and how we will know if we are succeeding in our mission. Whether you are on a nonprofit—excuse me, social profit—board or an employee of one, you can use this rubric-building approach to build consensus and set (or reset) the norms for your organization.

I am excited to dig in!

*See Understanding by Design by Grant Wiggins and Jay McTighe (Alexandria, VA: ASCD, 2005).

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ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACKWhen I finally picked up ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK (originally published in 2010), I did not know what to expect. The buzz around the Netflix series, which I have not yet viewed, seems to suggest high drama, machinations, and lots of attitude. But this is one of the most compassionate books I have ever read. It provides a very human look into the life of a woman who makes some bad decisions and later pays the price: a year in a minimum-security prison. Though of course we know how it ends (she is released and writes a book), the book pulses with suspense because like the narrator, we do not know what to expect from one moment to the next. Although certain aspects of prison life are predictable, many depend on human variables—some surprisingly uplifting and heartening, some humiliating.

If you know anyone whose life has been touched by incarceration—directly or indirectly—Piper Kerman captures not only what life is like on the “inside” but also some of the absurdities that land people there and the consequences for their family and friends.

And given that 2.3 million people are locked up annually, those consequences are vast.

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GHETTOSIDE by Jill Leovy

GHETTOSIDEIn order to solve a problem, you must first unpack it. What is really going on? What are the causes, as opposed to the signs and symptoms? Too often, perhaps, we leap to conclusions without sufficiently exploring the depths of a problem’s causes. And sometimes there are multiple causes, and we weigh some more heavily than others, which in turn affects how we devise solutions.

This may all seem very vague and abstract until you consider, for example, the homicide rate in Los Angeles County. Which, for a whole variety of reasons (emotional, psychological, financial…), is a huge problem.

In GHETTOSIDE, subtitled A True Story of Murder in America, Jill Leovy presents both a case study of what happened when a Los Angeles detective’s son was killed and an exploration of the myriad challenges for citizens and law enforcers in that environment. One cause of the high murder rate is that citizens believe they cannot trust the legal system to protect them, so they take the law into their own hands.

Leovy does not suggest easy answers. But the questions she raises are profound and worth considering.

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LIFE AFTER LIFE by Kate Atkinson

LIFE AFTER LIFEThe idea of immortality is, to say the least, not new. To consider some popular media examples: in the 1993 movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray’s character, an arrogant weatherman, is forced to live the same day over and over until he gets it right. In the more recent ABC TV show Forever, the lead is a man who in the past two centuries has “died” dozens of times but for some reason keeps getting reborn as his astonishingly handsome 34 year-old self. I don’t know why it keeps happening, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t repeatedly happy to see him.

In the novel LIFE AFTER LIFE, Kate Atkinson offers us Ursula Todd, who is born in England in 1910, then either dies (choked by the umbilical cord) or lives (the doctor makes it through the snow to snip the cord) and dies later (falls off a roof), or lives, then dies a different way. Essentially we get to see variations on the theme of her life and the lives of everyone who comes into her orbit, including but not limited to her family, various friends and lovers, and Eva Braun and Adolf Hitler.

Atkinson creates the impression that we can rewind the tape and try again. A lousy marriage to an abusive man can be erased, replaced by first one lover (an admiral) then another (an architect), then back to the admiral. It might sound fantastical, but it actually works. Her genre-busting approach makes me wonder if we will see more texts like this in the future. I feel as though she’s revealed a new path, but left us more to explore.

And all along, it is fascinating to consider the parallel lives we might have led if we’d made different decisions.

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